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THANKING
Thanking for gifts.
There is a specific form this type of thanking. The person receiving the gift ussually says three things:
An expression of thanks
A compliment on the gift itself, showing that receipient likes the gift; and
A question relating to the gift (its origin, use, maker...) to show interest in the gift. This is really another type of compliment and is optional in in formal circumstances.
Another way of thanking for a gift is to use an expression of thanks and then to state that a gift was not neccessary or expected.
e.g: oh, thank you. But you really didn’t have to.
Note: Although people do telephone to thank for a gift, a written note is also expected.
Thanking for a favors
A “favor” is doing something for another person that the doer had no obligation to do, for example, going to the store for a friend or mailing some letters so that a sick friend wouldn’t have to go out in the rain. Since a favor involves doing something extra, it requires an expression of thanks.
Two ways of offering a favor and asking for a favor are:
A offers for help
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B accepts the help and thanks A


B asks A for a favor
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A agrees to do a favor
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B thanks A


It is appropriate to thank the person again after the favor has been done. For “bigger” favors, that is, ones involveing more time or effort, the beneficiary (B above) may also give a gift to the doer of the favor (A above). For small things, such as holding open a door, person simply say “thanks” and the response is usually the nasal sound “ Mm, hmm”.
Thanking for offers of help
Always thank someone who offers to help you, whether you accept their help or refuse it politely. When refusing an offer of help, you may want to say something like:
No, thank you.
No, but thank you for offering.
Thank you, but I’ll manage OK by myself.
Remember that in U.S, offers of help are usually made only once. Therefore, do not politely refuse the first time thanking you will be asked again.
Thanking for compliment and wishes for success
Thanking for a compliment, whether on your work, your clothing, your family, or anything else, it is appropriate to say thank you, and to make a comment about the thing being complimented. Americans also say thank you when someone wishes them well.
Thanking for invitations
Remember that it is polite to thank the other person for the invitation, whether or not you accept it.
Thanking when leaving a party
Expressions of thank are always made when the guests take leave of the host. At this time, the host may reply by thanking the guests for coming, saying that it way nice to have had them over.
Thanking for other services
A mericans often thank each other at other times, too. A student may thank a professor who has just written comments on one of the student’s papers or who had taken the time to see the student, in spite of a very full schedule. Patients will also thank doctors for their services.
In a store, the clerk thanks the customer of making the purchase and the customer thanks the clerk for helping.
In a restaurant, the waiter or waitresses thanks the customer when the order is taken, and the customer sometimes thanks the waiter or waitress as each course is placed on the table.